Our expert says:
Gosh I am getting an AWFUL lot of very very long posts lately, so many that it's hard to deal with them all.
There's something oddly familiar about this story, as though you, or maybe she, had posted about this before.
Anyhow, maybe she was raped, maybe not --- it may be an attempted excuse for her odd behaviours. Being so excited to get back to the ship where it happened, and apparently without having made a legal case against the rapist ( on-board it's hardly practical for him to get away ). It doesn't really make sense. Its very understandable that you would feel so troubled by all this. Leave her be --- she can get help, legal and medical, if she needs it, and there's really nothing you can do in this situation which she had constructed. Move on.
John's response is excellent. But she must have every facility at her fingertips within the shipping company, and if she has taken no action at all, I would have to doubt her story ( including the precise time she chose to tell you about this ). A rape victim would not be delighted to return to the scene of the crime
If she is lying to you, and that's very possible, you cannopt help her and should let go.
If she is telling at least some of the truth, she may need help, but you can't provide it nor force her to get it --- again, advise what she should do, and leave it to her to do it.
Do not for an INSTANT blame yourself --- for "not being there to protect her " --- should you have stowed away, perhaps hidden in a lifeboat, in case this happened ?
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