Our expert says:
Actually, you have been reasonably patient, and have, by and large, coped. You had a choice before you took on this committment, then no really valid choice to evade what you had chosen. Things like getting dressed she CAN do, in terms of physical capacities, but she may not always CHOOSE to do them --- there's that element of volition. And maybe in a way she is echoing the battles ordinary parents experience with a younger child, of asserting herself and her sense of power, by being oppositional and saying "No". It often helps to anticipate the battle, and shift the issue --- in other words shift from "Get dressed !" "No !" -- to are you going to wear the red dress or the green dress ? I like the red one" --- then she can oppose you and choose the green one, but the argument has become about colour of dress and not whether or not to get dressed. Argue about WHICH school clothes to wear, not whether. And keep up fulsome praise for everything she does right, to keep it more rewarding to her to do what she can dio right, than to enjoy opposing you.
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