Our expert says:
Maybe he cares, buthas difficulty showing or expressing his caring, and grows furious when you think he doesn't ?
Discussions usually work best when based on behaviours rather than on interpretations of them --- when we say "You don't care" we are claiming to be able to read into his soul. When we say: "When you do X or Y, it feels to me as though you don't care", we;re describing real behaviour and how WE feel.
If, as it seems you want a de facto separation, even if not "official", then there is no meaningful relationship at present. If he reacts so badly to your attempts to discuss all this, how about writing him a calm letter expressing it all as kindly as you can, including your feelings of affection and respect for him, and your wish to draw the relationship, officially, to a close ? Ot whatever it is you actually want to say ?
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