Our expert says:
Have you noticed how very often variations on this theme turn up in the forum - of a husband whose attention to his child from a previous relationship causes concern to his present wife ?
R2500 plus clothes and outing sounds awfully over-the-top for a daughter's birthday gift, but maybe I'm just too old and poor to have kept up with such trends...
You could of course just buy him a card, or you could calmly and gently discuss the broader issue with him, about wanting an agreement as to what you expect from each other for birthday celebrations.
Negotiate at least an understanding of each other's priorities and wishes - with the aid of a marriage counsellor if necessary.
And for this particular birthday, why not just ask him what he wants ? You can say you noticed he didn't get a cake for your birthday, and so you wonder if he's gone off cakes, or maybe he would like one this time round ?
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