Our expert says:
Some people just really don't have the ability to relate comfortably to children - they may have the kindest of intentions, but can't manage it. Can you indeed limit the time she is exposed to him ? You're probably right that he won't change ( and probably won't see why he should ) but maybe explain to him calmly that his manner upsets your child and yourself. And discuss it with her, that this is how he is, and how he was with you and your sister, and that though he isn't likely to change, she doesn't have to be upset by it, and should try more to view him as a dog that barks but doesn't bite.
I haven't come across a useful book on this topic - maybe other readers have ?
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