Our expert says:
it is unfortunate that he is trying to blackmail you into reconciling with him, rather than trying to recognize the problems that drove you to this decision and trying to solve them, or asking for mariage counselling in an attempt to see if a realistic reconciliation is possible. You are posing false alternatives. Killing yourself must not at all be considered an option --- why on earth should you be punished for his misconduct ? And ( though actually insurance policies might not pay out in the case of suicide ) --- why enable him to profit on driving you to death ? No, call his bluff. Whether or not he harms himself is his own decision, and shouldn't influence your decision to escape from continuing abuse ; either way he decides, you would be free from further abuse. If you change yout phoner number, you don't have to explain that at all, to anyone.
But DO call POWA and get involved with them, as they are very capable of advising and supporting abused wives in escaping from a hurtful marriage and protecting themselves.
As S says, you can, will and should cope. And S is right, too --- don't let him play mind games with you, refuse to discuss these threats with him, tell him he can communicate with you through your lawyer. And call POWA !
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