Our expert says:
A sexual relationship is about quality experiences for both partners. One must never be pressurised into any type of sexually activity to which you are not consenting fully. The pleasure men may experience with anal play is not only in the idea, but also the direct stimulation of the prostate gland, which is a couple of inches inside the rectum on the anterior (front) wall. Women do not have this gland in this position, but may enjoy the sensation of fullness. It is sometimes possible to compromise in some way. Try having him masturbate around your anus or clamp his penis between the cheeks of your bottom to provide the friction - whilst it's not quite anal sex, it may be exciting and a reasonable compromise. If he wants to be penetrated anally, perhaps a sex toy can be used. If you use objects, make sure it's not sharp, cannot break, or the bottom of the object is flared so that it can't be lost inside the anus. With anal sex, LOTS of lubrication is necessary, and take time to learn to relax the anus. A condom or latex covering should be used. However, the ‘bottom line’ remains, that no partner should be forced into sexual activity which is not acceptable to them. It is different strokes for different folks! Expert opinion is provided by the SA Sexual Health Association – www.sexualhealth.co.za
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