Our expert says:
There is a lot that can be said here so I will try to be brief. If you have never been sexual with a woman, you will need to know a couple of things to begin with. (1) Don't expect yourself to know what to do to please her - women's bodies vary tremendously - ever changing in sensitivity so ask your wife for feedback about what she likes when you are touching/stimulating her. Listen to the feedback - if you don't know what she means, get her to show you with your hand on top of hers. Enjoy the foreplay and precoital stimulation before penetration - enjoy her whole body, don't just go for the genitals/breasts at the outset. It might take some pressure off you to stimulate her to orgasm (orally/manually) before penetration takes place...
(2) Women take a lot longer than men to become aroused and to reach orgasm (if indeed they do this), so expect that you might need to learn to delay ejaculation to prolong the experience. This means slowing the stimulation and being aware of your excitement levels so that you know when to 'cool off'. If you struggle with this, don't be afraid to take some advice (repost here again or read up elsewhere - there is plenty of info available).
On a more general note: don't put pressure on yourself to get it right - she knows you are learning, so enjoy the learning process together. Don't treat her as an expert other than an expert on herself (but even then, many women who have been sexual before have still never really learned about their sexual response/pleasure). Feel free to give her some guidance on your pleasure too, but make sure that you are taking turns on focusing on the other - it's give and take. Have fun and don't expect too much - rather let it be a pleasant surprise than a let down.
Warm wishes and congratulations on the marriage.
Claire - SASHA
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