Our expert says:
See a good local counsellor URGENTLY< to realistically examine your options and plan the best response for you and your health. As you realize, if you are too old or otherwise unable to handle hving another child, you should not have sex without secure contraception ; and if the man would make a lousy father, then one shouldnt have sex with him at all. If you gave in to his pushing for what he wanted --- then you just don't allow someone like that to ever get close enough to push you at all.
Yes, you need someone non-judgemental and clear-headed with whom you can discuss all this --- that'd be a counsellor. Marie Stopes (I met her son, oddly ) or Famsa / Lifeline is a good place to start., and yes, do explore birthright and provate adoptions
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