Our expert says:
WHy did you allow yourself to become pregnant by the new guy ? Was it really utterly accidental, or could you without greatly thinking about it have wanted this to happen for some reason ?
Why, especially, if he was as emotionally abusive as you say. and so opposed to a pregnancy that he left you when he found out about it ? Why did you stay with him if he was as unpleasant as he sounds ? You say you loved the attention from him, but it doesn't sound like loving attention at all.
On the other hand, it sounds as though your Ex is behaving very well indeed. Its good that his family seem to be in favour of you getting back together, too. I dont quite understand why he's worrying about the opinions of more distant relatives. If everyone had to wait for the results of a unanimous vote from ALL their relatives, would anyone get married ?
Seeing a relationship counsellor together sounds like a good idea.
Why do you seem to fear you might go back to the horrible baby daddy ? You could go to court and ask for a maintenance order for him to pay for the child, but to limit or prevent his access to the child he has shown no interest in, and if necessary, for a protection order to require him to keep away from you.
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