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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Hi Tamara, a warm welcome to the forum and thanks for your post.
I hope you saw the response to post 483, which was aimed at HIV transmission between gay men? Very similar info here, except that we can add vaginal fluid as a second LOW RISK body fluid. To recap then, blood and semen are very high-risk, vaginal fluid and pre-ejaculate are low-risk and all other body fluids are termed "no risk" for HIV transmission. (I'm excluding breast milk as we're talking about adult-to-adult transmission, not about mother-to-child transmission.)
When having sex with another woman your main concern is about avoiding her blood entering your bloodstream. This is usually only problematic if she's spotting (small quantities of blood after menstruation). Two tips:
1) If you want to know that the skin on your hand or fingers is intact before you play, apply a few drops of lemon juice concentrate to your hands - if it burns anywhere you'll know that your skin is not intact, which could pose a risk of the virus finding an easy entry point into your bloodstream.
2) For oral sex take a sheet of kitchen cling wrap (used to cover food - NOT the microwave version) and cover her genitals before you tuck in. A few drops of lube under the cling wrap could increase the sensation.
I suggest you call Triangle Project on 021 448 3812 and ask us to send you a very informative brochure on safer sex for women having sex with women. The brochure also addresses various STIs.
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