Our expert says:
I understand that your husband would not want to move from his comfort zone, espeially if he is seniro and earning well. But he may, if he wishes, also be able to get a transfer or find a better post, in Joburg, if he tries. I'm not sure what you mean about him not contributing financially, though. If he is abusive, physically or emotionally, it is reasonable to leave such a man if the problem is intractable and he won't work with a suitable expert to solve the problems. Counsellin would surely be the right next move. If he really expects you to carry all the household expenses and those of the children, its both understandable that you'd appreciate the rise, and that you'd gain rather than lose by moving without him. Maybe when he has to bear his own expenses, he may realize more clearly how much you contributed. It sounds as though you want to go without him, and that you could well justify that decision. But we can't make decisions like that for people.
Maybe others will comment helpfully, though possibly not before Monday, when most return to their computers.
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