Our expert says:
Love is not violent. And never accept violence as a price to pay for the possibility of love.
It sounds as though you have been a bit desperate to find someone who will be caring towards you, and not careful enough to know enough about them ( like the abusiveness and drugs abuse ) before committing yourself, satisfied by the initial apparent sweetness. Remember if the guy wants something from you, such as sex, he may be prepared to fake loveability, until he gets it.
And use contraception --- never have a baby except in a stable relationship with someone who you know well enough to know that he does not have such faults. And where, as in the first case, the guy is uncaring and bad, do not forgive him where he is unrepentent and likely to repeat the offense. And if he kept on cheating, he did not love you, he merely had you on his list, his timetable. You cannot "work things out" with someone who behaves like that, you will only bring yourself more grief. Don't keep convincing yourself that you "love" someone who nehaves so badly, selfishly and unkindly. See a counsellor, and learn to move on and be more cautious before committing yourself to someone new, while giving up the bad choices you have made in the past
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