Our expert says:
There are a number of reasons why women aren't able to reach orgasm, including: inadequate knowledge of their sexual response, fear of 'letting go' and what this might mean (e.g. some women are afraid of losing control, some fear that they might wee), side effect of some medication (e.g. antidepressants), inadequate arousal, tiredness, etc.
You are not alone.
In order for a woman to reach orgasm, she needs to communicate clearly with her partner about what feels good.
In order to know 'what feels good', it is important that you yourself know what feels good for you. I am not sure whether this applies to you, but for some women this may start from become aware of one's own anatomy.
It is important to have privacy. It may help to start by having a look your own genitals using a mirror. Some women find that it is helpful to use self exploration and then stimulation, either with fingers or perhaps with a vibrator, to identify the areas which feel good for you when touched. It is important to be able to focus on these feelings in a non-self conscious way, so that you don't block these feelings.
If thsi advice does not help and you feel that you need to get further help about this, please contact the SASHA Helpline on 0860 100 262. Leave your name and number and you will be contacted and provided with the name and number of a sex therapist who can help you.
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