Our expert says:
I understand your grief. If your mother did not normally act unpleasantly towards you, maybe if she was mistreating you only in the months before her death, her unpleasant and unusual behaviour was due to her illnes ? ( you don't mention the actual cause of her death ) --- and I know such situations can be ugly, and you may wish, not for the death of your mom, but for the death of this horrible person she sometimes behaved like, the death of that illness which caused it, and the return of the mom you knew. You mention her treatign you inappropiately when you were young, and most kinds of very serious illness can have effects similar to being drunk, in that the person may get disinhibited and lose control over their behaviour.
And abusive experiences when you are young may lead you to lose respect for yourself, and not to develop proper self-esteem. The behaviour of the Ex, in cheating on her husband and lying to him, is of course disgraceful, selfish and unkind.
Don't you deserve both some individual counselling, and to have your fiancee join you in marriage counselling, to help you deal with all these very complex issues ?
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