Our expert says:
Wouldn't it be worth everybody's while tom actually have paternity tests and sort out clearly exactly who the daddy is ? If its not him, you can hardly expect him to provide maintenance or baby-sitting, but if it is him, then maintenance becomes an important issue and one he can't just choose to ignore.
Peternity testing does NOT take much time at all, so he can't be allowed the excuse of not having time. Maybe if you went the alternative route of going throuh the maintenance court asking for the court to order him to pay maintenance, he'd quickly find time for such testing. But from your comments, it sounds as though he is being reasonably generous in paying towards the child's costs ( rather a lot if he truly believes he isn't the father ).
If he is the bio-dad, then maintenance law can require him to provide financial help, maybe even contributing towards the cost of paying a babysitter on occasion, but it cant and wont require him to provide services like babysitting nor can it require him to love the child.
Have you no other friends who are reliable enough to occasionally babysit for you ?
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