Posted by: CA | 2007/05/31

Please help

Good day Doc

I was sexually abused in a swimming pool when i was 5. I have been married for 1 and half years and only managed to have sex three times on my honeymoon, no sex since then. Oral sex is fine , just when it comes to penetrative sex i cant bring myself to do it. My husband does not deserve this and neither do i. I have been to see a psycologist, but it doenst seem to be help. the sexdoc did give me advice , but i cannot afford the procedure. I do know that its in my head, i just dont know how to overcome it
Please help. I know that my husband is on the verge of leaving me.

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Dear CA,
This is so sad to read, especially as this problem could almost certainly be cleared up if you would see a good local psychologist for a full assessment and then therapy of the CBT form, which could free you to enjoy penetrative sex --- sounds like you may have seen the wrong sort of psychologist in the first place. Analysts one ought to flee from, but behaviourists usually work well. Check out on ( and then seek the book through Kalahari or exclusivebooks, locally, for self-help books, which might help you to do some of the work yourself.

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Posted by: rose | 2007/05/31

sweets he doesnt check the post again after he's answered. and he also cannot give contact details. maybe someone else can help you..

there's also a lifeline no top of page.
good luck!

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Posted by: CA | 2007/05/31

Thank you so much Dr. Where would i be able to find a behaviourist - i live in Centurion.

In the mean time i check for the books

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