Our expert says:
I think there is an enormous amount of guff spoken about forgiveness. It is NOT aboput giving the perpetrator another chance to hurt you, or endlessly allowing them another chance to enjoy what they destroyed in the relationship. The only form of forgiveness that is wholeseome and worth recommending is freeing yourself from bonds of bitterness tying you to the perpetrator and the bad event(s). Why are you so dependent on nhim ? Don't you have any family and friends who can support you at a time like this ?
Sometimes, mistakenly or otherwise, you feel what you think is love, for someone who behaves in an ugly fashion and is cruel to you and others. If he can hurt you so much, so often, he does NOT love you, whatever he says --- love is best shown in loving actions, not words. Maybe you need to see a counsellor yourself, to become more independent and more respectful of yourself, and more assertive and less likely to allow someone to treat you badly.
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