Our expert says:
The patience and understanding in your relationship obviously has been a huge cornerstone for your relationship. From your expression it is however clear that you would like this addressed. Marriage counseling in general will not necessarily address the underlying sexual/closeness issues. I would however recommend that you seek the assistance from a psychologist that works specifically in the field of sexual health. Individual therapy could be worth exploring and then maybe at a later stage you could then look at couple therapy intervention. It is difficult to just make a diagnosis from what you wrote – but it could have a medical and/or psychological root. So exploring it with a medical doctor might be an option. The fact that you have such a strong resistance/aversion to physical touch however seems to be much stronger a psychological matter. It might be that the therapist and you did not connect the way you needed it or you were just not ready for the process. It is however never too late to explore things again.
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