Our expert says:
It certainly seems to have been a rather weird relationship she had - if she chose to remain with him after the episodes she describes as rape, and has remained some sort of friend with him, that's not the usual form of rape. And a rapist is not a friend.
From the sound of it, it's really not up to you whether she does or does not remain in this unwholesome friendship with this guy. We don't know what, if anything, she may be "keeping inside". She sounds frankly more committed to him than to you.
Counselling / psychotherapy sounds like a good idea as her whole view of herself, sexuality, and relatonships sounds messed up - but it couldn;t possibly help her unless and until she herself decided there were real problems, things she wanted to change, and she entered into therapy keenly and sincerely committed to changing this.
It may also be wisest for you to move on, as she cannot have any sincerely commited relationship with you while still so involved with this guy.
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