Posted by: Colleen | 2007/12/19

Painful sex

Hi! I'm a 20 year old female.I have kind of an embarrassing question.I'm a virgin and I have never masturbated before.My boyfriend and I have decided to have sex, but I keep avoiding the actual moment because I'm scared that it's going to hurt or that I might bleed.Is there something I can do to be more relaxed about this.

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Dear Colleen
If you are all tensed up about it you may get vaginal spasm which can cause sex to be painful. Having a trusting and stable relationship with an understanding partner which would not expect you to move the world the first time, will be useful!
Dr Bets

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Posted by: tks | 2007/12/19

Drink plenty wine to relax. The first time is a bit sore but it does pass

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Posted by: Lou | 2007/12/19

You need to relax, dont feel pressurised to hurry it, and just enjoy the moment. it is possible that you may "bleed" a little the first time if your hymen is still intact (some girls break this without knowing during vigorous sports etc). It may also hurt a little as the hymen breaks - it is not an excruciating pain and can be easily tolerated as it doesn't last long.

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