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Hi Brad and thanks for an interesting post.
Your anal discomfort could possibly be due to your not being totally relaxed. Possibly your partner is spending less time preparing you for penetration (through foreplay) or it could be due to your not feeling 100% relaxed in your relationship. Besides the sex, what else is happening in your relationship? Are you feeling as confident and 'safe' as you were a year ago? Has there been a decline in the level of non-sexual intimacy in your relationship?
Two or three sexual sessions a week should not account for your increased sense of tightness. Is it possible that on some level you're concerned that you're becoming less attractive to your partner, and less confident of your sexual self? And thus less relaxed? Remember that sex has more to do with what's cooking in your mind and less to do with pure biology.
A decline in the frequency of sex, over time, is quite normal.
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