Our expert says:
Its hard to know what sort of relationship the kids had with either of their bioparents. It was brave and good of you to take them in when you did. I dont think you need to mention their parents specifically more - just, as you do, enough to make it clear that its OK for them to talk about their parents when they wish to do so.
This must all have been really confusing for them, especially with the prospect of going to live with grandmother next year.
They may feel insecure ( obviously ) and unwanted, and may vary between trying to impress you and others so they can stay, and giving up when they don't think this is working.
Check whether there are any child welfare services near you who could provide access to a counsellor for the children, to help sort out what they want and help them adjust to the situation. They're lucky to have someone as thoughtul and caring as you to have relied on at this stage in their lives
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