Our expert says:
Maybe you can check at the guesthouse as to whether your brother was indeed staying there with A. And check on the identity and qualifications os A. If your brother was a patient of his, he could be in trouble with the Health Professiosn COuncil, as that would be considered unethical, whether the patient was male or female. If he is haing any sort of sexual relationship with anyone who IS a patient, he could be in serious trouble about that --- though that would of course also depend on evidence, and if the person concerned denied it or refused personally to complain it would be hard to make a case ( if they were under-age, parents could complain )
But at 19, your brother is legally an adult, and adults have the right to be foolish if they insist. If he is gay, he has the same rights as if he was straight. Would you be as upset if he were sneaking away to meet with an older woman, instead ? Being gay is as inborn as being straight --- someone can't rally jusy talk you into it.
I wonder who called you ? WHo this anonymous person is, who knows so much about what your brother is doing both in Cape Town and in Joburg is most odd ? Could it be your brother himself wishing to bother you all ? Who else would have been with him in both cities, and close enough to know these details ? Certainly his motivations must be in question.
But maybe the central issue is that your brother is an independent young adult, allowed to do what he decides to do, so long as it isnt illegal, and the rest of you dont really have any auithority to intervene, unless perhaps whatever he is doing is a major danger to himself or others, and that does not apply here.
You may no approve of his life-style, but he has as much right to chose it and follow it as he has to join any political party, or take any job that will hire him. If the family is in some way financing him ( you don;t mention how he supports himself and his shrink ) then you have only the right to withdraw that finding, or to make it subject to whatever conditions you wish, ad he is free to refuse the funding and the attached conditions
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