Our expert says:
Maybe the argument started because he felt somehow your question accused him of something or touched on something he felt guilty or awkward about ? Choose a suitable calm time, when there is time to chat, and then, as babydoll says, you should start by saying you do not want an argument of fight, but are puzzled by the way he seems to be referring to the relationship in different ways, which make it very hard for you to plan your own future, and gently explain what you want to understand. If you can make it clearly about what you need to understand, rather than letting him see it as challenging him and his intentions, he might be able to respond in a more mature way.
If he can't do that, then there are significant problems in the relationship, which can't be solved if he wont discuss them in an adult fashion
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