Our expert says:
The disparity between men and women often occurs. This is common experience that women are not so actively aware of their sex drive/desire and that men are much more actively aware of it. Women often need to get out of their heads before they realize that they would actually enjoy or want sex. I would suggest the following website that might provide some interesting information and exercises that could be helpful – www.sexualhealth.co.za. Read a bit about the difference in sexual response between men and women. I always describe women to be a bit more like old Cadillac’s – they need a bit of warming up before you can take them on the open road and men are more like the cars of today that you can start and drive full out. Maybe the two of you could explore a bit more foreplay to get you slowly into the feeling of wanting intimacy. It is not a matter of who is right and who is wrong, but finding a way to meet one another half way. Sometimes women need cuddling without it going into sex and that needs to be communicated and incorporated. We need intimacy without and with sex in a relationship. It might be helpful for the two of you to consult with a psychologist that specifically works in the field of sexual concerns and couple counseling.
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