Our expert says:
OK, a set of discouraging events and circumstances which one could allow to become disheartening. Part of what your husband may be finding especially difficult isn't so much having to share with your parents ( and knowing that if this arrengement is less than perfct, it was, after all, his idea ) but the sense of coercion, of external circumstances having forced you all into such an arrangement, of not having been able to make a wholly free choice.
I hope the union, and maybe Dept of Labour and other such organizations geared to help sort out unfair treatment of workers, can help sort out his problems at work. However tempting it can be at times, he probably needs to avoid resigning, as that may stop the investigations and may make itharder for him to get fair treatment and confirmation in his job or a better placement.
It sounds as though there were already problems arising from his over-involvement in his mother's life, which can be a most unfair way in which an unhappy wife relies too much on her son and gets him too deeply involved in matters which she ought to sort out herself.
The counselling was a wise idea, as was his decision to withdraw from her excessive dependency on him, and he needs to make it clear to her that this was done for the sake of his own health and on the advice of his own therapist, and not your doing at all.
Maybe encourage her to see a counsellor fopr her own problems rather than piling them all on him ( or on you ). Ideally, if it can be provided through his work medical aid or otherwise, counselling specifically of the CBT, Cognitive-Behaviour Therapy format is especially good at helping one to realistically re-evaluate one's habits of though and find more positive or functional and useful ways of facing one's problems.
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