Our expert says:
Yes, I do see the pattern, and understand why you'd prefer to avoid repeats of it. And why you'd want to learn a lot about contraception ! I agree that psychotherapy / counselling would be a good idea, likely to be helpful. In PE, though there's not a medical school as such, there is the University with an active Dept of Psychology, last time I looked. Any good Dept of Psychology which trains psychologists and counsellors, needs to balance the interests of traniees and clients, so they generally can provide a free or very low-cost counselling service through graduate students who would also be supervised by more senior staf, and this could be a useful option. Also check out what's available through the major state / provincial hospital in the way of psychiatry / psychology services. By the constitution they are supposed to provide good access, though know that province's Dept of Health has continued to have severe problems.
You're right that you need to free yourself from your past, or at least from your felings about it, and from the false and unhelpful conclusions you have drawn from it. You can learn from the past and are not doomed to repeat it ; and you sound as if you've reached 25 without following in any of the family's unfortunate traditions. But maybe you've become a little too cautious about the risks of relationships, to find one you can really enjoy and which can last ?
By the way, sorry for the delay in replying --- for most of Sunday, the Health24 server seems to have been down, and it's only just come back up.
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