Our expert says:
I am horrified that you are being victimised like this and by someone who should love you and support you. However, these things do happen, so now that you are 21 and of legal age you can handle this problem by yourself. You don't mention you present weight so that I can calculate your BMI to see if you are overweight or not. A size 14 does not sound excessive. Put it this way, if your height is 1.79 (which is tall for a woman), then your ideal weight would be 70 kg. Do you weigh much more? if not, join a gym and firm up so that you have lovely curves. If you do really weigh 90 kg (70 + the 20 kg you say you need to lose), then you need to also reduce your energy intake by eating an energy-reduced, low-fat, high-fibre diet (click on 'Diet' at the top of this page, 'Weight loss', ‘Balanced diet' and then on 'Slimming Diet' for a copy of such a diet). Now, an important factor in overweight is depression, so I would recommend that you seek the help of a clinical psychologist (ask your gp to refer you or look in the Yellow Pages under 'Psychologists'). The psychologist will help you to sort out your feelings of frustration and depression caused by your mother's attitude and also teach you how to cope with the situation. It is really worthwhile to get this baggage off your back while you are still young and your whole life lies ahead.
Holding thumbs that you resolve the problems and lose weight (if you actually need to).
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