Our expert says:
It sounds as if your son is angry about something and needs to speak with someone about what is happening for him. Someone within the family may not be what he needs, but rather an outside counsellor or therapist.
Him coming home at midnight or even 3 in the morning is not that unusual for a 20 year old to be honest - but if you don t like it happening in your home you need to speak with him about this.
His step-fathers approach seems to be pushing your son away. He needs to be heard, not given ultimatums. You may feel hurt but you need to ask him what is happening rather than guessing or threatening him with having to leave - this may mean he leaves for good - is that what you really want?
If his behaviour has changed drastically in recent times there is the possibility of substance abuse and you need to keep this in mind as well. If you need to find a counsellor your family doctor is a good place to start.
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