Our expert says:
JM, You're both married now. To further any relationship between the two of you now, would needlessly hurt your spouses and children. WHY you never ended up together isn't what matters now --- you can't change history. Closure is something you could usefully seek in counselling.
And of sleeping dogs ? There are many such old sayings --- as the Tom Wolfe book said, "You Can't Go Home Again" --- because at the stage you get back, it isn't what it was. You can't step in the same river twice --- because by the time you revisit it, the river has slightly changed it's shape, and the water is all new.
Rather invest effort, perhaps in marriage counselling, in revivifying your present marriage, than in trying to hark back to what will always be out of reach. Neither of you is today, the people you were back then.
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