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Posted by: angel | 2008/06/04

my husband's ignores me

i have this problem with my husband he gets angry about silly things and does not talk to for days he he sleeps on the far end of the bed and does not even touch me. Once this went on for a month, i live and do every thing for him yet he treats me like dirt. The thing is this i am starting to hate this man. The last time he stopped talking to me was because I did not buy bread, he says it is about ethics. I cook, iron give him his lunch yet he does not talk to me. Please help cos I think he has a major problem.

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He sounds rather childish and sulky. And if he sees an ethical problem in your not buying bread for him, he has a truly bizarre idea of what ethics is. As apple says, it belongs in a playground, not in a marriage. Marriage counselling is what is needed, though I understand that he may be reluctant. Maybe if you stop doing so much for him ( he can do his own lunch, cleaning, etc. ) there'd be something he'd want to talk about, and you could offer to consider returning some of your services in return for his sincere participation in marriage counselling

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Posted by: Mary Owen | 2015/04/08

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Posted by: Carol Thomas | 2015/01/14

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Posted by: mercy | 2013/08/09

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Posted by: angel | 2008/06/11

thanks you guys for all the advice, and for taking the time to read my problem. At least there are real people that care. I will take charge of my life, hopefully soon.

God Bless each one of you.

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Posted by: zaza | 2008/06/05

hey girl it sounds like you hubby is having aserious problem that u wont know about.He cant be mad at you just bcos u didnt buy bread -there is something deep either than that.If my hubby ignores me i just try and keep myself busy somehow until his mood is back.Its so irritating cos u want answers and thn he just wont tell u whats eating him.Watch tv or read a mag.I know it sounds easy but ignore him as well.

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Posted by: ceeeperson | 2008/06/05

i would leave him lady, this is only going to get worse if ur starting to hate him already, i know this from past experience. be strong,take the leap, do what is right for you and you will feel so free.

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Posted by: almost mad | 2008/06/04

my dad was the same as that. my mum did it all for him. i often wished they would devorce. now years later it is a bit better. I think tho if u love him then go for counceling and dont let the kids (if u have any) suffer with you. If he is going to change then help him do it now and go for counceling. trust me, you dont want to live like that for years. we have waited too many years for dad to change and it caused a lot of resentment and fear and tears.

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Posted by: Been there | 2008/06/04

Oh how I feel for you, my husband used to be like that and it used to crush me. Convincing him to go for individual or couple counseling is first prize but men like that usually wouldnt want to go for counseling, Until such time he does agree to go, heres some advice, dont nag him to communicate with you or keep asking him whats wrong because he probably expects that. Also dont stop doing what you usually do, like cooking or ironing. Because youre probably doing it because his behaviour doesnt affect the fact that you have a responsibility as a wife to do certain things, which is much more matured than he is acting. Just dont let him feel you are serving on him because that will make him feel its ok what he is doing to you. If he is in one of his moods, make food, but then tell him in a very neutral tone, Ive made supper (or lunch whatever it is), if you want it, Ive left it in the microve or on the table, dont go and give it to him, because that will almost be like you are condoning his behaviour. As far as sleeping on the far side of the bed, just make as if it doesnt bother you, believe me he will stop as soon as he sees it doesnt bother you. Men like these are master manipulators and they thrive on their actions affecting you, so try as far as you can to act as if it doesnt bother you, this will frustrate the hell out of him. My husband used to sleep on the couch when he was like that, and I used to stress about it, until I just ignored it, he never does that anymore. I know it seems stupid to do what seems like solving childish behaviour with the same kind of behaviour, but until youve lived it, you will know that this, besides counselling for whatever complex he is suffering from, is the only thing that will help, and getting them to counseling is usually almost impossible.

I know what youre going through, if youre newly married and without kids, get out if you are not willing to struggle through this, because its a struggle and it takes a lot to be with someone like that and to get to a point where it starts being ok. If youre going to stay, get help in rthe form of counslling, youre going to need it. Good luck and God bless

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Posted by: Sybella | 2008/06/04

Hi Angel

It does seem like your husband has major issues and the first chance he gets, he takes it out on you.You should try speaking to him even when he doesn't want to, even if you guys argue at least then it shows there is communication.Problems come up in relationships due to lack of communication.He is your husband you should be able to speak to him about anything and he should do the same for you.Don't let petty arguments get in the way of you guys having a great marriage.If you try speaking to him about his issues and it doesn't work then you guys should go for marraige counselling.Sometimes you would be surprised at the issues people have.

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Posted by: Babe | 2008/06/04

I totaly agree with Apple! U said in your own words "i live and do every thing for him yet he treats me like dirt".

Let him know that 2 can play that game.... next time he does it just carry on as normal and act as if it does not bother you ... and to start when u go to sleep 2night u must lie on the far end of the bed. Give him his own medicine back.

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Posted by: apple | 2008/06/04

he sounds like my father- always blowing up if the food has too much salt or anything really! It is really a reflection of his immaturity in handling a relationship with other people and has nothing to do with your behaviour or 'ethics'. I've always called it 'playground behaviour'- cos it is so childish. Perhaps you both need to go for relationship counselling where you discuss how you are going to deal with conflict and how you relate to each other and most importantly when he ignores you you need to be strong enough to just ignore him (and also stop mothering and taking care of him) when he is being a child! Cooking, ironing, taking care of him should be an expression of love not a chore. you are empowering him by allowing the behaviour towards you to continue.

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