Our expert says:
It sounds as though you may have started with somewhat unrealistic expectations from your hostel mates. They sound pretty typical people. One of the unrecognized functions of a hostel is that it gives you a chance to learn about other people and the difficulties of living with them. Throughout your life some people will ignore you --- and at times you will feel very grateful for that. Some will be true to you, some will deceive you, some will deceive themselves. That's life.
Why have you chosen to make this group, espeially this one woman, so significant to you ? When you do that, you give them power over you which maybe you should keep to yourself. Stick to your own good beliefs and habits --- study hard ( that's what you're there for, isn't it ? ) and in the way that best suits you. How you study is none of their business.
Sadly, some kids waste their parents and society's cash by going to college or uni simply for fun and partying. Don't worry, from the sound of their childish attitudes, this bunch are not likely to be with you in second year. The fact that they try to push you to do things their way, shows that they are basically insecure, and they feel challenged by you doing anything your own way. Let them go their own way --- you can live among them and be friendly rather than unfriendly, but you don't have to go partying with them and don't have to give up your own good study habits to follow their silly and empty ways. Have the self-confidence to be yourself, as it sounds as though it's a rather good Self to be !
And as Holl says, make a wider circle o friends or at least acquaintances, rather than feeling that you have to depend on these bozos.
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