Our expert says:
"everything happens for a reason" is one of those useless comments that are popular among people who want to say something comforting, and can't think of anything actually useful, to say. What is more true is that you CAN find something useful to derive from even really bad experiences, by learning appropriately from them, and avoiding them in future.
But the original phrase does NOT mean you in any way deserved what happened, and one must never make that assumption.
If you were abused, especially so young, that father WAS monstrous, and if people stupidly thought him saintly at his funeral, it just shows how easy they were for him to fool.
There can be so many reasons why old bad memories might start to come back, and its usually worthwhile to again deal with this in counselling. It implies that the task of working through this wasn't fully completed last time round.
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