Our expert says:
Just shows us how money, when you don't have it, seems so marvellous and a sure solution to every problem ; but how it rarely ever proves to be that, if and when it arrives. And when a man like that succeeds, which may be largely due to sheer luck, he often concludes, wrongly, that it's because he's marvellous and wise and always right. Suspecting deep down that this may not be so, he often becomes very rigid and intolerant of disagreement.
You don't need to disagree with him ( and after your studies are finished you will be able to be more independent ) but maybe you don't have to disagree with him openly. If you don't feel able to give him "respect" sincerely, you can give him silence. Ignore points of friction that won't be useful or fruitful.
Sometimes you can influence such a person by congratulating and praising them, not insincerely, but whenever PART of that they do is PART ot what you want, in other words, when they move, even accidentally, some way towards what you would want. For instance, instead of confronting him about the insulting things he said in company ( which is likely to only make him much more rigid about this ), look for some kinder things he said, or at least something less rude than usual, and thank him for being so gracious and tactful when he said X or Y. Show him he can get appreciation when he's pleasant, rather than when he's strutting round trying to sound important.
And he shows another pattern I've often noticed, the generosity of the poor, and the meanness of millionaires. I think this is especially so with people who WERE poor, and have become millionaires. In a way they always fear sliding back into poverty, so they can be excessively cautious about money.
What should your aims be ? That's up to you. Possible aims could be --- avoid needless conflict ; achieve independence as soon as possible ; try subtly to shape his behaviour towards becoming more reasonable, as described above. And don't give him so much power to bother you.
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