Our expert says:
Being spoilt, as your sister apparently was, isn't as good for gher as it might seem, especially not in the long run. Among other unhelpful effects,m it may lead someone to over-estimate their abilities and to unrealistically expect other people to give them special treatment throughout life, which just Won't Happen.
More importantly ( because your life story really doesnt need to be at all influenced by whatever happens to her, good or bad ) is the impact on you. And where it leads to you under-estimating yourself, under-valuing your own abilities and achievements, that can be needlessly limiting.
Stop giving so much power over how you feel to your sister and parents. And if your parents don't ask about how you're doing, then when you meet them, TELL them. That'll place the topic on the agenda and remind them that you also have a life worth considering.
You seem to be navigating through life looking firmly backwards, at the past, which is as safe and useful as driving down the freeway with black paint over the windscreen, and looking only in the rear-view mirror.
Counselling would help. With or without it, start clarifying where you would LIKE to be, and how to get there from here, in small, manageable steps.
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