Our expert says:
A man of 23 who has sex with a girl of 15, is committing the crime of statutory rape. Maybe the irresponsible young father needs to be reminded of this when he wants to claim custody in order to control where the girl will live. But I don't understand your message --- surely she isn't now pregnant AGAIN ?
Any court ( and it may have to be a court which decides, now ) will have to take all aspects into acount, and decide what would be best for the child, above all. Whether or not the father ( responsible for the acts of statutory rape ) WANTS the child in order to force the mother to stay with him, should not carry much weight. If she doesn't want to stay with him, no court would require her to do so, surely. And unless the man can prove that she would be an irresponsible and dangerous mother ( even when supported and assisted by you and your husband ) and that HE the young man would be very much better as a parent, he is not likly to be given custody.
He has a duty to maintenance to support the child --- whether or not he has acess to the child, those two issues are NOT tied together. No amount of maintena nce can buy custody or even visitation rights. And if the child is best cared for by the mother who choses to live in Cape Town with her parents, he can begiven visitation rights, and HE has the problem of how to visit the child in Cape Town --- neither the child, mother nor her family would be expected to re-locate to suit the convenience of the father.
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