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Posted by: Confused | 2007/07/30

Must I just let go?

I broke up with my x-boyfriend 5 years ago, we never talked about the brake up until last week. We realised that we still have feelings for each other, but the problem is that he has moved on with his life, he has a girlfriend and a child and they living together. He says our feelings for each other are putting him in a predicament and that he wished we had talked about this sooner because he has always believed that I hate him.
I told him that I did try to arrange for us to meet so that we can speak about it(that was 2 years back) but he did not get back to me and so I though he wants nothing to do with me. His reply was that he was too occupied with his work at that time and did not think it was serious because he thought that I broke up with him because I did not love him anymore.

Now he is saying that we can see each other again because he is not married, I would love to do it but I am not sure if it is the right thing to do, because I will only see him less that 4 times a year as he is living in another province now, and I am scared that I will get more hurt as he might not leave his girlfriend and end up marrying her.

Please advise me on what to do because I still really love him and I could not move on because I hopped that one day we will get back together.

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We all make mistakes in our lives, decisions we later regret. But we move on. You are not the woman who made that decision 5 years ago ; he is not the same man --- and he has indeed moved on and has new commitments, someone else in his life, and a child. To try to go back to the relationship with him which you then gave up is not possible, and will hurt at least two innocent people, and still have a high risk of not working out. Move on, and learn the appropriate lessons, so you don't make this mistake in the future. Seeing him again, and ignoring his woman and child would surely not be right

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Our users say:
Posted by: lady | 2007/07/30

i wish i could save you from yourself...

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Posted by: ndi | 2007/07/30

let it go,he is a selfish pig who just wants to heat up things beasue maybe the honeymoon phase is over with his girlfriend,he just wants to use you,at the end of the day he is building a life with someone(five years),and you will always be stuck.move on girlfriend.if it was really bothering him about your breakup he would have tried by all means then,to talk to you.let it go

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Posted by: jskr | 2007/07/30

Just think for a moment if you were his girlfriend, and an ex was trying to intrude on your relationship.

Please stop being selfish, and consider other people's feelings...especially other women.

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Posted by: Volcano | 2007/07/30

You will see him 4 times ayear and the rest of the time he will be staying right where he is and motivate this as being ok as he is not married. Either you or his girlfriend or even both of you will end up getting hurt.

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