Our expert says:
unfortunately you have moved at one of the most crucial times in your teens life. This does happen in people's life for various reasons that are unavoidable, but to expect that it will not impact on her I am afraid is wishful thinking.
Whilst she may be making attempts to make new friends, she is going to be missing her old friends tremendously. She is at a stage of development where friends are eveything and adults including parents are seen as less important - even though they are important! She is experiencing a major loss in her life and as with all losses she is going to need time to adjust. She is going to be angry with you partly because you are her parents so you are the "safest" people to be angry with - but she will also be angry with you for making her move away from her friends - because no matter how much your reasons make sense for the family they may not make sense to her.
Whilst it is important that you maintain your boundaries around how she may speak with you, I would also ask you to allow her some time and space with this and to a certain degree take the pain of how she feels. Ignoring her back will just feed into her resentment - rise above it and remember that engaging in adolescent behaviour is best done by adolescents!!
I know it can be hard but showing her you understand that she is struggling and that this move was not her choice will go quite a way to helping her - even if she doesnt show it!
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