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Great question and great answers. Thanks for this valuable interaction.
A divorce is sad on the children especially when a parent tend to turn their back on them, but what they really need is one loving, stable adult in their lives to grow up into happy, well adjusted young adults.
Anon, you are demonstrating that you are a very thoughtful parent who puts his child's needs first but you also have to be "gentle" on yourself and allow yourself to have a life as well.
YES, children needs need to be put first but all they need is a good enough parent. There are no guarantees in life, as you may have found out already, and mistakes are part of the learning process. If you meet someone you like and is good with you and your child, that is something that you can appreciate and enjoy in this time. Yes, relationships who breakup are hurtful, but your son is going to experience his own in his lifetime. They cannot be avoided. What can be learned though is how to deal with it with emotional maturity. To refuse a relationship because of what could happen will keep you from discovering some very happy moments in your life and therefore in your son's life too. If your doubts are founded on present behaviour than it's for you to read the signs, but there is no better way to protect your child than to allow for a richness of experiences into your life.
All the best.
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