Our expert says:
Oh Noni, stuff like this happens, to even the very best of parents. Teenagers seem to have a remarkable skill for irritating, challenging and tormenting parents ; and may try to project whatever else is scaring and bothering them ( sometimes things they can't explain to themselves, let alone to you ) onto you ; they don't let you help them to feel better, but generously share with you the sense of hopelessness and fury they are feeling.
A bad parent is less distressed because they care less. The kid has spent years studying you, and knows exactly what buttons to press to upset you.
Usually such things work out by themselves, but when the situation has reached such a severe squabble as you describe, it's often wise and convenient, if you can arrange it, to arrange for some family counseling sessions with a good local counselor, with you, your husband and the boy, to work together to find a better way of handling his current irritations : and this way limits his ability to play one parent off against the other, a common tactic.
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