Our expert says:
The situation sounds complex. Some people drink more when they get depressed - and alcohol is a powerful depressant, som it's often a vicious circle. It sounds as though, in a way, she's begun to live her life backwards, or at least looking backwards - ruminating about her miserable childhood, which she cannot change, rather than looking at how to enhance her present and future, and to change her attitudes and assumptions about the significance of that past - all of which she CAN change.
Chocolate can be partly cheering for a miserable person, and shouldn't harm your dad's diabetes so long as he is sensible enough not to eat it.
I understand your concern to ensure she gets proper care, but psych help is often ineffective if a person has to be "forced" to go along with it - they usually stop going, stop taking meds, and sabotage it where they can. So its more important to try to persuade her that she is obviously miserable as she is, and in ways that are surely amenable to properly expert help. And the first need is for a proper assessment of the nature and dimensions of the problem, and what options there are for improving the situation.
Either a psychiatrist ( who can also prescribe meds ) or a psychologist could help. There's a good dept of psychiatry at the University of Stellembosch who should be able to help
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