Our expert says:
I understand the issues, Suri. Many of us get lonely, but when we let ourselves become too demanding that other people ignore their own needs and lives, and give time to us instead, we're like the drowning swimmer who strangles the lifesaver.
And you're right in recognizing the oriny that often family balances shift, and we the younger generation end up having to "parent" our parents. You are making excellent progress and break-throughs, and must put your own life first. And it sounds as if you have a good counsellor ! I agree with his point. If your mom will listen, explain that sacrificing your own needs in life will be a disaster for you, and won't do her any good either ; but that if you continue to get stronger and more confident and independent, you will be nmore able, freelly, to emotionally support and spend time with her. Maybe very gently, if she raises the point that you're growing up and away from her, you can suggest that she think about getting her own counsellor, to discover and enjoy her own strengths
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