Our expert says:
You don't mention how long you have been married, but it sounds as though it has been for quite a long time. Maybe you're just growing tired of trying to live with his bad temper, etc., opr maybe his symptoms have been getting worse more recently. There could be various possible causes of the aggressiveness and temper you describe at first ; but when you mention military service and now nightmares where he wakes up screaming, this sounds very typical of PTSD ( Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder ) which is quite common in ex-servicemen who were exposed to some horrible events, and needs specialized assessment and tyreatment, and can be very usefully improved by this.
He should see a good local psychiatrist, preferably one who has had experience in this field. Also explore whether there are military psych facilities available to him at one of the main military hospitals, which should find him suitably experienced expert advice.
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