Our expert says:
Its very typical and normal, that our own past sorows can be re-awakened when someone dear to us suffers a similar sorrow. And, exactly as you say, if you never fully mourned the loss of the first pregnancy, you may need to do it later, like now. And, as you say, this includes to right to mourn, rage, and weep.
YOu didn't betray any baby. And the losses, of an unborn, and a new-born, are different in their impact. In some ways it can feel worse to have lost a child you never held, who was never able to even be held in your arms.
As with most tragedies in life, people who have never actually encountered them at all, are so terribly brave about your suffering, and don't take it seriously. You deserve to see a skilled counsellor, preferably someone experienced in helping people deal with this sort of grief --- maybe Famsa will know one in your area
And continue to work through this. You have been a fine mom, already
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