Our expert says:
When you feel that you're reaching the end of your tether, get a brand new tether. You are trapping yourself in absolutist thinking. He was NOT, absolutely definitively NOT, "one person that could make me feel better in my life anymore" --- nobody is that, to anybody. Maybe he was, up to now, the one person who DID perform that useful function. But as soon as you declare that he was the only one, you are declaring that nobody else will ever be allowed to ( including yourself, who has the primary duty to make yourself feel better, or alllow yourself to feel better). YOu do NOT have nothing --- you have general physical health, you have indeed everything you ever had in your life EXCEPT him. But you are declaring EVERYTHING to be worthless, compared with him.
Nobody else, including him, can make this feel better --- except for a powerful combination --- YOU, plus TIME. It takes time. Wish it didn't, but it does. You WILL feel better eventually, probably sooner than you can imagine right now. He was A rock in your life, not THE rock, and there will be other rocks, including yourself, if you don't ignore them.
DO see a personal counsellor as soon as possible, as there is no need for you to continue feeling so hopeless and helpless.
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