Our expert says:
What may be worth considering is family therapy, and that if your husband is wanting your relationship to be at its optimum he also needs to consider the impact of his relationship with your boys. They are part of your life and part of your family and he has to accept that, otherwise you are going to feel pulled in two different directions and quite frankly no man should ever make you feel as if you have to choose between him and your children.
If he will not go to family therapy I would strongly advise you to go with your two boys - and make it clear to them that this is not becasue they are "the problem" but you want to keep your relationship strong with them. A really good organisation is the Family Association of South Africa (FAMSA) who you can look up at www.famsa.org.za
they offer counselling services to families and couples.
Hope this is helpful, best wishes.
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