Our expert says:
hubbie, it sounds like you are describing an abusive relationship, in which you have been trained to blame yourself for things that didn't work out, even if they weren't at all your own fault. And you yourself sound like a decent, hard-working and affectionate man who has been put down and squashed and has not received the respect you deserve.
If she would agree to join you in marriage counselling, then you two could see how much of this rift could be healed, and if this fails, at least part knowing that you did all you could to be sure there was no other good alternative. If she doesn't agree to participate sincerely in marriage counselling, then you deserve individual counselling for yourself, to enable you to feel more confident and happy within yourself, examine your options and their advantages and disadvantages, and make a wise choice for your own future and that of your son. And consult a good and very experienced lawyer, to make sure that whatever happens, defends your interests, and those of the boy, more than hers, as it sounds like she will be highly energetic in looking after herself.
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