Posted by: Not New | 2008/05/20

Male orgasm problems

My partner of four years finds it very hard to reach a climax during sex, and needs at least 20 - 30 minutes of manual stimulation. He had the same problem with previous partners. With me he has only once had an orgasm after just penetration. He has consulted a urologist who found nothing wrong, and has seen a psychologist to no avail. We've read up and some people think it is a psychological problem, while others say it's physical. It bothers him more than me... I just sometimes get tired because lovemaking takes so long. Any advice?

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It is very rare indeed for such problems to have their origin in any urological problems, and only some ludicrous thinking by some medical aids about VIagra prescriptions, dragged urologists into a field where they're really not qualified to deal. THis is hardly ever a problem with physical origins or solutions. He should see a good shrink who has an interest in sexual problems ( not all do ), for an assessment and advice. Behavioural approaches can work wonders. This sort of problem tends to include a large element of secondary psychological issues--- in that, whatever causes an intitial delay in reaching orgasm, subsequent worrying about it, and expecting the problem to occur again, makes it increasingly likely to occur again.

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Posted by: shooter | 2008/05/21

try visual stimulation in foreplay before trying for the final act. if the mind is not involved then the body will not perform

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