Our expert says:
OK, so your bf was a louse --- one really shouldn't have a baby by anyone unless you know them well enough to be sure something like this won't happen. Why should you blame yourself for not being woman enough for him ? The real problem is that he wasn't man enouygh for you --- a real man does not cheat, and does not create babies irresponsibly. Why on earth did you get back with a guy like that ? Its indeed very highly likely he has always been with other women, and always will be --- that's how you have encouraged him to behave. Rather have the self-respect to look after yourself and your baby, and have the maintenance court require him to pay proper maintenance for the child's care, learning some of what his selfish enjoyment actually costs.
How can he say he loves you and only you, when he has repeatedly proved that this is not true ? You will never regain your self-esteem while with someone who treats you like this. See a ounsellor to work on raising your self-esteem and self-respect, not so you can stay with this louse, but so you can respect yourself and your child enough to avoid men who treat women like dirt.
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